Celebrating Independence at Every Age
This month, we celebrate independence. Fireworks, hot dogs, family gatherings — July is full of tradition and moments that remind us of what independence means to each of us. But beyond the celebrations, it’s a meaningful time to truly reflect on that word: independence.
As we grow older, "independence" can take on new meaning. Our bodies and minds may change, and with that, our sense of independence may shift too. In our field, we often see individuals and families navigate this transition. Over the years, I’ve noticed that those who embrace their own version of independence — even through physical changes — tend to age more successfully and joyfully.
I’m fortunate to have close relationships with many older adults, both here at Friendship Haven and in the broader community. I’ve learned so much from them. Here are four simple, yet powerful things I’ve observed:
Attitude Matters.
The number one thing I’ve noticed in people who age well is their attitude. They don’t let setbacks define them. Instead, they keep a positive outlook, even when things aren’t perfect. Their resilience is inspiring. They don’t let minor inconveniences ruin their day — something we could all learn from. Staying positive keeps them lighter, happier, and more engaged with life.
Friendships Are Vital.
People who stay connected to friends — not out of obligation but genuine joy — are often the happiest. They prioritize time together, check in often, and truly value those relationships. Strong social circles, especially those beyond family, are a key part of thriving in later years. One of my older friends, the amazing Barb Johnson, always reminds me: “Girlfriends keep us grounded.” That regular connection really does matter more than we realize. To further quote Barb “Friends, frankly, are the best comic relief going. Friends are a “time out” so central to our mental wellness. Real lifelong friends can sob with you one day and call you a dumb ass the next. That’s love.”
Keep Moving.
Even when the body doesn’t cooperate like it used to, movement is essential. My mom, Sharon Moser, is the best example I know of this. She’s been dealt a tough hand lately, but she keeps moving. You’ll find her walking, biking, or water walking almost every day — even through pain. It may slow her down, but it doesn’t stop her. Just recently, she danced the night away, despite the discomfort, because the celebration mattered more than the pain. That kind of spirit is powerful.
Make a Plan.
The people I know who make plans for their future tend to have a deeper sense of peace. They aren’t leaving their future up to someone else — they’re owning it. And that brings a sense of independence and control that’s empowering. It’s not just about logistics; it’s about living life on their terms.
I certainly don’t have all the answers, but these four reminders are a strong foundation for maintaining independence and aging well. Consider this your friendly nudge to reflect on where you are with each of them. If you’re not embracing all four, pick just one to start: stay positive, call a friend, move your body, or make a plan.
And most importantly — love the life you’re living.
